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Friday, August 28   >>

THIS IS WHY IT GETS COMPLICATED

Facebook has pretty much ruined social neutrality. It used to be that, if we saw someone we hadn't seen in a few months or years, we'd play genuine catch up. "Oh, that's nice. Where do you work? Are you dating? Do you have a weed connect?"

Now, it seems, everyone wants everybody else to know every goddamn banal detail of their day, so they scope out old yearbooks and add you based on an informal "I really/kinda/sorta/not-really know you" basis.

This is why it gets complicated.

You've added Aaron, per his request, just to not be a dick. You kinda know Aaron from your first two years at community college, and you even joined a band with him for a brief period of time -- a good one at that!

But you guys broke up on a bad note (though not literally -- like I said, you guys were good!) And through Aaron's profile, you find out that he has a kid. "Whoa," you think. Whoa, indeed.

Days later, you find out on Aaron's profile that the singer of aforementioned band and he are still friends. News breaks on Aaron's profile that the singer is getting married. "Whoa," you think.

Whoa, indeed.

Fast forward a couple months down and you're walking down the street minding your own bee's wax (that's the first time I've ever seen "bee's wax" written) and you run into Aaron.

"Hi, Aaron. What's new?"

You fucking dumbass, "What's new?" You know EXACTLY what's new. He's got a KID now.

But do you mention it? Or do you wait for him to tell you? And if he doesn't tell you, will you gauge how important you are to him based on the fact that he either does or, worse, DOESN'T tell you?

And moments after you ask, "What's new?" the singer pops out.

Whoa, indeed.

"And you, singer, what's new?"

You fucking dumbass, "What's new?" You know EXACTLY what's new. He's going to get MARRIED.

But do you mention it? Or do you wait for him to tell you? And if he doesn't tell you, will you gauge how important you are to him based on the fact that he either does or, worse, DOESN'T tell you?

And THIS is why I fucking hate these websites.